camdamage:
oh dear. i’m gonna need you to take a seat here for a hot minute here.
this comment is so off-base it’s actually laughable.
first of all: there are no bruises displayed in this photo. you are obviously not familiar with the after-effects of spankings/beatings (or bdsm/power exchange in general) and thus have no room to speak on this matter, so allow me to educate you. these photos show a well warmed up bottom after a foreplay spanking. there will be no marks left behind from a mild spanking like this.
second: there is absolutely no negative message being transmitted here. no men need argue that i liked receiving the exhibited spanking. as a strong woman who is confident in her sexuality and masochistic tendencies, i can assure you, i did enjoy it - in fact - I ASKED FOR IT. LITERALLY. my fiance was sitting next to me watching tv and i said “hey would you like to give me a spanking?”. he enjoys spanking me, so he complied. the photos are actually rather loving.
third: again, this wasn’t a “massive” spanking or a spanking to an “extreme degree” by ANY measure. it was actually quite a nice, light session that only lasted a few minutes. this again shows your lack of knowledge on this subject matter, again proving you have no room to speak.
and finally: please don’t speak for any women. at all. period. just. no.
all submissive women are NOT sad, weak, pathetic things. i am a masochist. i know what i want and i will ask and even beg for it. i am a consenting adult and i am in control of all actions taken against me - even from a submissive position. i am safe, respected, and loved in my relationships.
educate yourself before you speak. or, you know, at least think.
edit/addendum:
even if there were bruises on me in this, so fucking what? when i do have bruises, i EARN them. i ask for them. i endure physical and mental pain, sometimes of an extreme nature. but guess what - i like it. i overcome all the pain and fear and feel amazing when i come out on the other side. those bruises are a badge of honor to me. for me, this is more than sex. this is therapy.
okay i’m done now.
I’m not.In addition to this person clearly not knowing what sort of bdsm acts are in the constraints of “normal” (whatever that is), these sort of accusations are taking things out of context. BDSM is meant to be safe, sane and consensual:http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Safe,_sane_and_consensual
A bruise can happen for various reasons. You can have your own personal opinion that you don’t like bruises, but bruises themselves are not a problem in society. There is only a problem if someone’s personal integrity has been attacked, which is something BDSM is definitely not for. Going all “that’s horrible” when only seeing the final result is misleading and bound to cause confusion. You shouldn’t use something that is completely normal and in no way harmful as a tool for your agenda (even if you mean good!)Oh, and as a male and a dom, please don’t go and imagine your own reasons for actions of others:
It is none of your business why someone else does something.
If you start guessing, you’ll probably get it wrong and propagate additional misunderstanding. (Have you actually ever, you know, asked why people practise spanking?)
In case of actual abuse, the purpose or the reason behind the act is largely if not completely irrelevant.
Frankly, your suggested reason “maybe she liked receiving that massive spanking” is quite a horrible one. ‘MAYBE’ IS NOT GOOD ENOUGH. You don’t go around spanking people just in case someone might like it – not even gently. There is unforgivable collateral damage in such act. You always need consent – a permission to spank (or whatever subjectively nasty things people do). That is the default setting, you don’t negotiate not-spanking, you first have to find out if someone or you yourself want to get spanked. If someone does not like it, or (inclusive) has not explicitly given permission for someone (not automatically everyone) to do it, they ought not be spanked. Period.
Now, if there is someone who does not like to be spanked and experiences that anyways, that is very bad and the perpetrator should be punished. But as long as no one is doing anything against their will, you won’t have a say in what people are doing with each other or what they are posting online
Rights and pleasures of the many are NOT protected and exercised by demanding some others to cease having them. #BDSM #spanking #sex #abuse #sexism #dominant #dom #sub #submissive #submission #dominance #safe #sane #consensual #safe #sane #and #consensual #bondage #discipline #love #trust
oh dear. i’m gonna need you to take a seat here for a hot minute here.
this comment is so off-base it’s actually laughable.
first of all: there are no bruises displayed in this photo. you are obviously not familiar with the after-effects of spankings/beatings (or bdsm/power exchange in general) and thus have no room to speak on this matter, so allow me to educate you. these photos show a well warmed up bottom after a foreplay spanking. there will be no marks left behind from a mild spanking like this.
second: there is absolutely no negative message being transmitted here. no men need argue that i liked receiving the exhibited spanking. as a strong woman who is confident in her sexuality and masochistic tendencies, i can assure you, i did enjoy it - in fact - I ASKED FOR IT. LITERALLY. my fiance was sitting next to me watching tv and i said “hey would you like to give me a spanking?”. he enjoys spanking me, so he complied. the photos are actually rather loving.
third: again, this wasn’t a “massive” spanking or a spanking to an “extreme degree” by ANY measure. it was actually quite a nice, light session that only lasted a few minutes. this again shows your lack of knowledge on this subject matter, again proving you have no room to speak.
and finally: please don’t speak for any women. at all. period. just. no.
all submissive women are NOT sad, weak, pathetic things. i am a masochist. i know what i want and i will ask and even beg for it. i am a consenting adult and i am in control of all actions taken against me - even from a submissive position. i am safe, respected, and loved in my relationships.
educate yourself before you speak. or, you know, at least think.
edit/addendum:
even if there were bruises on me in this, so fucking what? when i do have bruises, i EARN them. i ask for them. i endure physical and mental pain, sometimes of an extreme nature. but guess what - i like it. i overcome all the pain and fear and feel amazing when i come out on the other side. those bruises are a badge of honor to me. for me, this is more than sex. this is therapy.
okay i’m done now.
I’m not.In addition to this person clearly not knowing what sort of bdsm acts are in the constraints of “normal” (whatever that is), these sort of accusations are taking things out of context. BDSM is meant to be safe, sane and consensual:http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Safe,_sane_and_consensual
A bruise can happen for various reasons. You can have your own personal opinion that you don’t like bruises, but bruises themselves are not a problem in society. There is only a problem if someone’s personal integrity has been attacked, which is something BDSM is definitely not for. Going all “that’s horrible” when only seeing the final result is misleading and bound to cause confusion. You shouldn’t use something that is completely normal and in no way harmful as a tool for your agenda (even if you mean good!)Oh, and as a male and a dom, please don’t go and imagine your own reasons for actions of others:
It is none of your business why someone else does something.
If you start guessing, you’ll probably get it wrong and propagate additional misunderstanding. (Have you actually ever, you know, asked why people practise spanking?)
In case of actual abuse, the purpose or the reason behind the act is largely if not completely irrelevant.
Frankly, your suggested reason “maybe she liked receiving that massive spanking” is quite a horrible one. ‘MAYBE’ IS NOT GOOD ENOUGH. You don’t go around spanking people just in case someone might like it – not even gently. There is unforgivable collateral damage in such act. You always need consent – a permission to spank (or whatever subjectively nasty things people do). That is the default setting, you don’t negotiate not-spanking, you first have to find out if someone or you yourself want to get spanked. If someone does not like it, or (inclusive) has not explicitly given permission for someone (not automatically everyone) to do it, they ought not be spanked. Period.
Now, if there is someone who does not like to be spanked and experiences that anyways, that is very bad and the perpetrator should be punished. But as long as no one is doing anything against their will, you won’t have a say in what people are doing with each other or what they are posting online
Rights and pleasures of the many are NOT protected and exercised by demanding some others to cease having them. #BDSM #spanking #sex #abuse #sexism #dominant #dom #sub #submissive #submission #dominance #safe #sane #consensual #safe #sane #and #consensual #bondage #discipline #love #trust
